1. Paying attention is the key. Notice where there is resistance and breathe.
2. Observe the use of such words as "should", "can't","but" or "ought to". These words are red flags for resistance and holding on. Change "I should" to I choose to". Change "I can't" to "I choose not to".
3. In relation to resistance, ask yourself: "What would it be like if I just allowed this to be as it is without resisting it?"
4. Ask yourself, "Does it really matter?" Often it really doesn't. However, if it does really matter, focus on dealing with it with compassion.
5. Just simply let it go.
6. Move away from complaining to creating. Complaining keeps us stuck, creativity shifts us into higher brain function that allows us access to collaboration, problem solving, compassion and wisdom.
7. Practice forgiveness. If you are being judgmental of yourself, stop being so judging. If you are holding back forgiveness from someone else, forgive the person and free yourself to move on.
One realm we have never conquered--the pure present. One great mystery of time is terra incognita to us--the instant. The most superb mystery we have hardly recognized--the immediate, instant self.
I am Myohye Do'an, a bhikṣu (fully ordained Chán Buddhist monk) and Chán Master. Here I share my thoughts and observations about living a life of compassion, attention and gratitude.